Hope is closer than you think

Grief: searching for hope

Life is binary. You are either alive or you are dead.  Pretty clear… and unwavering. 

Yet, why do so many of us struggle with grief? 

Maybe we want to avoid the pain that inevitably accompanies loss? Maybe we fear the uncertainty? Maybe if we just close our eyes then it will magically just disappear?

Maybe we haven’t been taught what to do?

Avoidance, fear and denial are understandable when grief is staring you in the face. These are survival mechanisms – ways for us to cope when we are overcome with emotion. 

However, these methods can lead to any number of unhealthy outcomes in an effort to find relief. Overeating, acting out, anxiety, depression, addiction – you name it. 

Listening to, or playing music, is a safe way to express yourself. It’s healthier. It can bring instant relief… and, you can count on music to be there when you need it. If… you understand it’s superpowers.

Music affects our brains and our bodies. 

Music creates a safe emotional environment. 

Music connects us to others.

The key is to listen with intent. By that I mean that if you listen or play a piece of music  that is relevant to you, that has a special meaning to you, that activates a memory, your body will react in a specific way. 

If you are looking to escape then listen to music that reminds you of a happier time or place

If you are looking to commiserate then listen to music that matches your emotions.

If you are looking to feel connected listen to music you can participate with (by singing, dancing, playing). 

Understanding how you react to music gives you the power to find relief… that is meaningful to you. Whenever you want. For as long as you want.

Instead of hurting your mind or body you will be healing yourself. And, if you are actively healing yourself the sooner you’ll feel better. 

Grief shouldn’t be feared or avoided. It’s a part of life. Take solace in knowing that music can make the process easier.